Sometimes in the middle of a beautiful sunny day, there is a terrible secret.Sometimes when our eyes are full of delight and our hearts are full of love, we can be blind to the actual climate of a situation, and those clouds can come roiling up out of nowhere and, well.....you just wished you'd checked The Weather Channel.
I had a tough experience this weekend watching a dear friend verbally attack someone else that I love, and it all happened at what was supposed to be a nice event. After a little reconnaissance I figured out what happened, but that didn't really make it any better. It got me thinking about the difference between how a person feels and how they act.
I don't really want to argue about the feelings. You can't tell people their feelings are wrong. (You can, but it makes things worse.) But I might want to have a conversation about the actions. I'm debating this because I was not directly involved and it may alienate me from the person who said some inappropriate things. He's in a very stressful emotional state to begin with, and I don't want to upset him more. But I have not been able to stop thinking about how unkind the words were and how far out of kilter they were with the actual situation.
I did call the person who received the aggression, and extended my regrets that it happened. That might be enough.
It might not.
Photo credit Zevotron, http://www.flickr.com/photos/randomurl/842016056/
2 comments:
I'm not going to offer advice on a touchy emotional situation, but I can offer you a virtual hug.
Thank you. We've all been there, I'm sure, and it does help just to "talk" about it.
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